Tuesday, June 2, 2009


Today marks what would have been my parents' 35th anniversary. I'm not sure what to do with this. I'm certain that it must be a really hard day for my dad - I know it would be for me, if I were in his shoes. Do I call him and ask him how quitting his job went (he starts a new one in two weeks and told his employer yesterday) and just hope that he doesn't bring up the anniversary? Do I call and tell him I was thinking about him today, and let him talk about it while being all awkward because I don't know what to do? Should I just wait and let him call me, giving him space?

I also got an odd text message from my sister this morning. She asked me if dad and Sharon (one of mom's best friends, for 27 years, and one of the Three Musketeers) were dating. I told her not that I was aware of and why? Apparently my sister's half-sister Deb asked 'Shell if they were. Now...why Deb would ask this I don't know. She and my sister both live in another state, and neither are terribly close to my dad (although my sister more than Deb, what with being our mother's child and all). I know dad lives in a small town, but I still can't see how that information would have gotten to Deb even if it were true. So now there's this to add to the debate raging in my brain: Do I call dad and tell him about the text, see what he says? Do I ignore it and just wait for him to tell me? Do I call one of the OTHER Musketeers and she what SHE has to say about it? Do I call dad today, ask him about this, see if he says anything about the anniversary?

ARGH! Too many questions, no answers! And no - this is not the only post rattling in my brain. There have been many others recently - I'm just afraid to write them and put them into words, and I don't want to think about them, so I'm sticking my head in the sand.


IdleMindOfBeth said...

I haven't had to deal with wedding anniversaries, since my parents were divorced. But, I do know that on Dad's birthday, I made sure to touch base with both of my sisters. Nobody had to mention the day, we were all aware, but it was important to "check in" and see how we all were doing.

Just my 2 cents

Jess said...

I really don't have any answers, but I wanted to wish you luck figuring it out. I just don't know, I'm sorry. :(

nancy said...

Just wanted to give you support that I was reading. I have absolutely zero advice in this area, except it would be my plan to let others live how they want to live. My BEST friend died (married to my other best friend) and she moved on quickly. It's how she grieved and I would never be upset about that.